Hypocrisy relating to Gender on Familylawwebguide

This was on FLWG. Imagine if this was a woman posting this and wanting to keep the child from the father....they would tear strips of her like they have done before:


Posted Yesterday, 09:00 PM
#19263
cundletown
General Member
Marker My wife left 7 months ago and left me with the kids.Only one is not grown up and he is only 7 and all the payments are paid to me.During that time she has only sent him 2 bits of clothes and shesendstext messages to him to say good night nearly everynight but that is it.We do have a private agreement with child support which i said earlier she has not kept up.I am in the process of my solicitor giving me fullcustody and her visitation rights with a consent order.She lives nearly 700kms away and wants him to spend all the Christmas holidays with her and then send him back to me. My concern is that without a court order she could decide to keep him there and I do not trust her.What are my options? Should I tell her to wait for the consent orders before she takes him away? Or if she did decided that she was not going to return him how easy is it to get him back.

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Posted Yesterday, 11:12 PM
#19265
gooner

Silver Member
Marker cundletownOnly you know the real risk of this actually happening. It would be a huge thing for her to do to a school aged child... and to be honest, she would already need to be well advanced in the plans to pull it off.. think about it, school enrollments and stuff that seven year olds do.....If you are in the process of trying to get consent orders, then i would get them consented to as quicly as you can.What you have had in the past can work for you in court to get your child back IF your scenario happenedThe current residence situation will not help you one bit to get your child back, without legal action, if she decided to not return your child, the police wont do anything and if you went to get the child, you would almost certainly be slapped with an arrest and an AVOIts quite simple really No orders = No rules and ANYTHING can happen (which does not mean of course that it will!!!)Its another double edged sword in the world of families splitting upPersonally, i would not do it without a firm agreed contact of whats going to happen, and my ex only lives 1km away... but thats just me.......thanks Last edit: Yesterday, 11:20 PM by gooner
"In times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act"

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Posted Today, 10:34 AM
#19273
cundletown
General Member
Marker The reason I do not trust her is because she wanted me to lie about how many days she has him so she can claim more from centrelink.Also she is renting a 2 bedroom flat for 220 a week.She is only on the single pension which only leaves her about 130 a week to live on if you include rent assistance.I think maybe my best bet is to say no till all the orders are in place just in case.She has already told me that she would not keep him but i guess you hear so amny horror stories of mothers playing hard ball when it comes to the kids.What do you all think?

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Posted Today, 11:09 AM
#19274
gooner

Silver Member
Marker
cundletown said
The reason I do not trust her is because she wanted me to lie about how many days she has him so she can claim more from centrelink.Also she is renting a 2 bedroom flat for 220 a week.She is only on the single pension which only leaves her about 130 a week to live on if you include rent assistance.I think maybe my best bet is to say no till all the orders are in place just in case.She has already told me that she would not keep him but i guess you hear so amny horror stories of mothers playing hard ball when it comes to the kids.What do you all think? I think you just answered your own question. Get it confirmed legally in writing
"In times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act"

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Posted Today, 02:06 PM
#19278
MikeT

Platinium Member
Marker Cundletown.You are very right to be concerned. Far too often a parent wants custody for the extra financial assistance that they can get.I believe that if you and your ex could agree, you could have consent orders filed in little time, the application can be lodged and filed without having to go to court and even I guess with having to go to a Family Relationship Centre. The one area that concerns me is that the child will be the one missing out.Have you perhaps considered means by which she could have some contact? Perhaps her coming to see the child rather than the child going to her.Perhaps supervised by a relation or friend who you do trust. Perhaps even at a centre that will oversee supervised contact. There could be many options and permutations driven by the situation.


Why aren't you posting to this that he has to ensure that it is in the childs best interests to facilitate contact with his mother like you did recently with a female member who wished to move? Why is it suddenly the mother is assumed to be only interested in financial gain for wanting to have her child? Why is it recommended that she only have supervised contact and on what basis? Why is it preferred that the mother go to the child instead of having the child go to her MikeT, when you were on that website complaining about this very issue? No wonder you only have a very special core group of angry men posters and the rest you chase away. All familylawwebguide is a self help group for men to avoid child support, to make it hard for the mothers to parent their children.